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In a Japanese romance story, a character may return from a confession looking heartbroken and say:
振られた。
Furareta.
I was rejected. / I got dumped.
If the person confessed and the other person said no, 振られた means “I was rejected” or “I was turned down.”
If they were already dating and the partner ended the relationship, it means “I got dumped.”
振られる (furareru) means “to be rejected” or “to be dumped” in a romantic context.
振られた (furareta) is its past form:
・I was rejected
・I got turned down
・I got dumped
The situation tells you which English translation is most natural.
This article explains the meaning, pronunciation, kanji, passive grammar, historical background, common phrases, related vocabulary, and natural examples of 振られる and 振られた.
What Does Furareta (振られた) Mean?
Hiragana: ふられた
Casual katakana spelling: フラれた
Romaji: furareta
Grammar: past passive form of 振る (furu)
Romantic meanings:
・was rejected
・was turned down
・got dumped
・was romantically rejected by someone
好きな人に告白したけど、振られた。
Suki na hito ni kokuhaku shita kedo, furareta.
I confessed to the person I like, but I was rejected.
昨日、彼女に振られた。
Kinō, kanojo ni furareta.
My girlfriend dumped me yesterday.
Japanese focuses on the fact that the other person rejected the romantic approach or relationship. English often chooses a more specific verb based on the stage of the relationship.
Furareta: “Rejected” vs “Dumped”
After a Confession: “I Was Rejected”
If no relationship had begun, translate 振られた as “was rejected” or “was turned down.”
勇気を出して告白したのに、振られた。
Yūki o dashite kokuhaku shita noni, furareta.
I worked up the courage to confess, but I was turned down.
After Dating: “I Got Dumped”
If the two people were already a couple, 振られた normally means that the other person ended the relationship.
三年付き合った彼氏に振られた。
San-nen tsukiatta kareshi ni furareta.
I got dumped by the boyfriend I had dated for three years.
告白したけど振られた。
I confessed, but I was rejected.
After the relationship begins
恋人に振られた。
I got dumped by my partner.
For most situations, use rejected, turned down, or dumped.
What Does Furareru (振られる) Mean?
Hiragana: ふられる
Romaji: furareru
Form: non-past passive
Possible translations:
・to be rejected
・to get rejected
・to be dumped
・to get dumped
Japanese non-past forms can describe the present, a general tendency, or a possible future.
告白したら振られるかもしれない。
Kokuhaku shitara furareru kamo shirenai.
I might be rejected if I confess.
いつも同じタイプの人に振られる。
Itsumo onaji taipu no hito ni furareru.
I always get rejected by the same type of person.
こんなことをしたら、彼女に振られるよ。
Konna koto o shitara, kanojo ni furareru yo.
If you do something like this, your girlfriend will dump you.
振られるかもしれない describes a possibility, while 振られた clearly describes a completed past event.
How the Grammar Works: 振る → 振られる → 振られた
The romantic verb 振る (furu) means to reject someone’s romantic approach or end a relationship with them.
to reject someone / dump someone
↓ passive
振られる (furareru)
to be rejected / get dumped
↓ past
振られた (furareta)
was rejected / got dumped
振る is a godan or u-verb. To create the passive form:
Remove the final る sound and change the u-row ending to the a-row:
ふる → ふら
＋
れる (passive ending)
＝
振られる
The standard passive pattern is u-row → a-row + れる:
ふる → ふられる.
Furu vs Furareru vs Furareta
reject or dump someone
振られる
be rejected or dumped
振った
rejected or dumped someone
振られた
was rejected or got dumped
私は彼を振った。
Watashi wa kare o futta.
I rejected/dumped him.
私は彼に振られた。
Watashi wa kare ni furareta.
I was rejected/dumped by him.
彼を振った ⇒ I rejected him.
彼に振られた ⇒ I was rejected by him.
How to Use ～に振られる
The particle に marks the person who performed the rejection.
The rejected person is rejected by the other person.
友達は好きな人に振られた。
Tomodachi wa suki na hito ni furareta.
My friend was rejected by the person they like.
彼は恋人に振られて落ち込んでいる。
Kare wa koibito ni furarete ochikonde iru.
He is depressed because his partner dumped him.
In natural conversation, the rejected person is often obvious and omitted:
昨日、振られた。
Kinō, furareta.
I got rejected/dumped yesterday.
A person speaking about their own recent experience can naturally say only 振られた.
Why Does 振る Mean “Reject Someone”?
The basic verb 振る has many meanings, including waving, shaking, assigning, and turning something in a direction.
Japanese dictionaries also record an old sense meaning to dislike someone, treat them coldly, or refuse their approach—especially in relations between men and women.
The Nihon Kokugo Daijiten records this rejection-related use in The Pillow Book, written around the end of the tenth century, and later romantic examples such as The Life of an Amorous Man from 1682.
Someone approaches with a request or romantic feeling
↓
The other person turns or pushes the approach away
↓
The person is 振られる: rejected
This “turning away” image is useful for memory, but it should not be treated as a complete historical proof of how every meaning developed.
Why Is Furareta Sometimes Written フラれた?
Standard kanji-and-hiragana spelling
ふられた
Entirely in hiragana; soft and readable
フラれた
Casual katakana emphasis; common in social media, entertainment, and informal writing
The katakana spelling makes the romantic, colloquial meaning visually stand out. However, 振られた is the standard spelling for ordinary prose.
How to Pronounce Furareru and Furareta
Romaji: furareru
Morae: ふ・ら・れ・る (4 morae)
振られた
Romaji: furareta
Morae: ふ・ら・れ・た (4 morae)
Keep the morae even:
furareta: fu-ra-re-ta
As a beginner, practice it clearly as fu-ra-re-ta.
Furareta vs Kotowarareta (断られた)
Romantically rejected or dumped.
The word centers the romantic relationship or approach.
断られた
A request, invitation, proposal, or offer was refused.
Broader and more neutral.
告白したけど振られた。
Kokuhaku shita kedo furareta.
I confessed, but I was romantically rejected.
食事に誘ったけど断られた。
Shokuji ni sasotta kedo kotowarareta.
I invited them to dinner, but they declined.
断られた is safer unless the refusal clearly rejects your romantic feelings or relationship request.
Furareta vs Wakareta (別れた)
The other person ended the relationship.
The speaker is the rejected side.
別れた
The couple separated or ended the relationship.
It does not say who initiated the breakup.
彼女に振られた。
Kanojo ni furareta.
My girlfriend dumped me.
彼女と別れた。
Kanojo to wakareta.
I broke up with my girlfriend / We broke up.
Use 振られた when you specifically want to say that the other person rejected you.
Furareta vs Shitsuren Shita (失恋した)
Describes the other person’s rejecting action.
失恋した
Describes the experience or state of unsuccessful love / heartbreak.
好きな人に振られた。
Suki na hito ni furareta.
I was rejected by the person I like.
失恋して、しばらく何もする気になれなかった。
Shitsuren shite, shibaraku nani mo suru ki ni narenakatta.
I was heartbroken and did not feel like doing anything for a while.
失恋 can also describe love that never became mutual, even when no direct confession took place.
振られた explains what happened, and 失恋した describes the romantic loss that resulted.
Furareta vs Kokuhaku o Kotowarareta
Both expressions can describe an unsuccessful confession, but their focus differs.
Casual and emotional: “I got rejected.”
告白を断られた
More explicit and descriptive: “My confession was turned down.”
昨日、告白したけど振られた。
Yesterday I confessed, but I got rejected.
告白を断られたので、今は少し距離を置いている。
Kokuhaku o kotowarareta node, ima wa sukoshi kyori o oite iru.
My confession was turned down, so I am keeping a little distance for now.
Related article: Kokuhaku Meaning—Love Confessions and Dating Culture in Japan
Common Forms and Expressions
be rejected / get dumped
振られた
was rejected / got dumped
振られない
not be rejected / not get dumped
振られそう
seem likely to be rejected or dumped
振られたばかり
have just been rejected/dumped
振られてしまった
ended up being rejected; unfortunately got dumped
振られちゃった
casual contraction of 振られてしまった
また振られた
got rejected again
一方的に振られた
was dumped unilaterally
What Does Furarechatta (振られちゃった) Mean?
振られちゃった is a casual contraction:
↓ casual contraction
振られちゃった
I ended up getting rejected.
I got dumped…
The ～てしまった pattern often expresses completion, regret, disappointment, or an unfortunate result.
Depending on tone, it can sound sad, embarrassed, resigned, or like the speaker is trying to laugh about the situation.
Other Words Pronounced Furareta
Japanese has homophones, so the same pronunciation can come from different verbs.
雨に降られた: “I Got Caught in the Rain”
帰り道で雨に降られた。
Kaerimichi de ame ni furareta.
I got caught in the rain on the way home.
Here, the kanji is 降, from 降る, “to fall” as rain or snow.
手を振られた: “Someone Waved at Me”
駅で彼に手を振られた。
Eki de kare ni te o furareta.
He waved at me at the station.
Here, 振る has its basic physical meaning “to wave.”
I got dumped by my partner.
雨に降られた。
I got caught in the rain.
手を振られた。
Someone waved at me.
Complete context prevents confusion.
How to Say “I Rejected Someone”
Use the active verb 振る.
告白されたけど、彼を振った。
Kokuhaku sareta kedo, kare o futta.
He confessed to me, but I turned him down.
彼女を振ったことを後悔している。
Kanojo o futta koto o kōkai shite iru.
I regret dumping her.
In a sensitive conversation, a more neutral description such as 付き合えないと伝えた (“I told them I could not date them”) may sound gentler.
How to Respond When a Friend Says 振られた
A person who has just been rejected may want comfort, silence, advice, or simply someone to listen.
That must have been hard.
大丈夫？
Are you okay?
無理に元気を出さなくていいよ。
You do not have to force yourself to cheer up.
話したくなったら、いつでも聞くよ。
Whenever you feel like talking, I’m here to listen.
今日はゆっくり休んで。
Take it easy and rest today.
Listening and acknowledging the feeling is often a better first response.
Furareta in Anime, Manga, and Dramas
Romantic rejection is a common source of drama and comedy, so you will often hear short expressions such as:
Don’t tell me—you got rejected?
俺、振られた。
I got dumped/rejected.
また振られちゃった。
I got rejected again.
振ったんじゃなくて、振られたの！
I didn’t dump them—they dumped me!
振られたくらいで泣くなよ。
Don’t cry just because you got rejected.
告白する前から振られる気がしていた。
I felt like I would be rejected even before confessing.
The word itself does not tell you how deeply the person is hurt; the voice, expression, and situation do.
Natural Example Sentences with Furareta and Furareru
昨日、好きな人に振られた。
Kinō, suki na hito ni furareta.
Yesterday, I was rejected by the person I like.
告白する前から、振られるのが怖かった。
Kokuhaku suru mae kara, furareru no ga kowakatta.
I was afraid of being rejected even before confessing.
彼氏に突然振られて、何が起きたのか分からなかった。
Kareshi ni totsuzen furarete, nani ga okita no ka wakaranakatta.
My boyfriend suddenly dumped me, and I did not understand what had happened.
三回も告白したけど、三回とも振られた。
San-kai mo kokuhaku shita kedo, san-kai tomo furareta.
I confessed three times, but I was rejected all three times.
振られた理由を何度も考えてしまう。
Furareta riyū o nando mo kangaete shimau.
I keep thinking about why I was rejected.
彼女に振られそうで不安だ。
Kanojo ni furare-sō de fuan da.
I am worried that my girlfriend may dump me.
振られたばかりだから、今は恋愛のことを考えたくない。
Furareta bakari dakara, ima wa ren’ai no koto o kangaetakunai.
I was just dumped, so I do not want to think about romance right now.
彼を振ったのは私です。
Kare o futta no wa watashi desu.
I was the one who dumped him.
彼に振られたのは私です。
Kare ni furareta no wa watashi desu.
I was the one who was dumped by him.
振られても、相手の返事は尊重しなければならない。
Furarete mo, aite no henji wa sonchō shinakereba naranai.
Even if you are rejected, you must respect the other person’s answer.
友達に話したら、少し気持ちが楽になった。
Tomodachi ni hanashitara, sukoshi kimochi ga raku ni natta.
After talking to my friend, I felt a little better.
雨に降られた上に、恋人にも振られた。
Ame ni furareta ue ni, koibito ni mo furareta.
Not only did I get caught in the rain, but my partner also dumped me.
Common Beginner Mistakes
Mistake 1: Translating Furareta as “Dumped” in Every Situation
If no relationship had started, use “rejected” or “turned down.” “Dumped” implies that the people were already dating.
Mistake 2: Confusing Futta and Furareta
I rejected/dumped him.
彼に振られた。
I was rejected/dumped by him.
Mistake 3: Assuming Every Declined Invitation Means Furareta
A declined dinner invitation may simply be 断られた. Use 振られた when the person rejects the romantic approach or relationship.
Mistake 4: Confusing 振られた and 降られた
恋人に振られた means “I got dumped,” while 雨に降られた means “I got caught in the rain.”
Mistake 5: Thinking Rejection Gives Permission to Keep Pressuring Someone
振られた means the other person rejected the approach or relationship. Their answer should be respected.
FAQ About Furareta and Furareru
What does furareta mean?
Furareta (振られた) means “was rejected,” “was turned down,” or “got dumped” in a romantic context.
What does furareru mean in Japanese?
Furareru (振られる) is the passive non-past form meaning “to be rejected” or “to get dumped.”
What is the difference between furareru and furareta?
Furareru is non-past and can describe a present tendency, future possibility, or general event. Furareta is past and describes a completed rejection or breakup.
Does furareta mean rejected or dumped?
It can mean both. After an unsuccessful confession, it means “rejected.” After an established relationship, it normally means “dumped.”
What is the dictionary form of furareta?
The active dictionary form is 振る (furu), “to reject or dump someone.” Its passive form is 振られる, and its past passive form is 振られた.
What is the difference between furareta and kotowarareta?
振られた specifically suggests romantic rejection. 断られた broadly means that a request, invitation, proposal, or offer was declined.
What is the difference between furareta and wakareta?
振られた identifies the speaker as the rejected side. 別れた simply says the relationship ended and does not specify who initiated it.
What is the difference between furareta and shitsuren shita?
振られた describes the rejecting action. 失恋した describes unsuccessful love or the experience of heartbreak.
What does furarechatta mean?
振られちゃった is a casual contraction of 振られてしまった and means “I ended up getting rejected” or “I got dumped.”
Why is furareta sometimes written フラれた?
Katakana emphasizes the colloquial romantic meaning. 振られた remains the standard spelling.
Can furareta mean “got caught in the rain”?
The pronunciation is the same, but the kanji is different: 雨に降られた means “I got caught in the rain.”
Summary: Furareta and Furareru Meaning
To reject someone romantically or dump a partner.
● 振られる (furareru)
To be rejected or get dumped.
● 振られた (furareta)
Was rejected, was turned down, or got dumped.
● Translation depends on the relationship stage
Before dating: “I was rejected.”
After dating: “I got dumped.”
● Main grammar pattern
Person + に + 振られる
⇒ be rejected by that person
● Important comparison
断られた = a request was declined
別れた = the relationship ended; initiator unspecified
失恋した = experienced unsuccessful love or heartbreak
● Homophone warning
恋人に振られた = got dumped
雨に降られた = got caught in the rain
振った = I rejected someone.
振られた = Someone rejected me.
Then use the situation to choose between the English translations rejected and dumped.
Related Article
If you want to see all the key Japanese words about dating, confessions, and relationships in one place, see Japanese Dating Culture Words: Confession, Couples, Attraction & Rejection.
References
- Kotobank: 振られる — passive structure and meanings including romantic rejection.
- Kotobank: 振る — meanings, historical examples, and the old sense of treating a romantic approach coldly.
- Goo Dictionary: 振る — the meaning “to reject another person’s request or approach.”
- Kotobank: 失恋 — unsuccessful love or romantic feelings not being returned.
- Kotobank: 別れる — ending a relationship between spouses or romantic partners.
- Kotobank: 断る — declining or refusing a request or offer.