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In Japanese conversations, anime, sports scenes, and workplace dialogue, you may hear:
Please! / I’m begging you!
頼むよ。
Please. / I’m counting on you. / Come on, seriously.
あとは頼んだ。
I’ll leave the rest to you.
ラーメンを頼んだ。
I ordered ramen.
you rely on another person and place a wish, task, or need in their hands.
頼む (tanomu) commonly means:
・to ask someone to do something
・to request a favor
・to entrust a task to someone
・to rely on or count on someone
・to order food, goods, or a service
・to call for a professional or vehicle
頼むよ (tanomu yo) can mean “Please,” “I’m counting on you,” “Make sure you do it,” or an exasperated “Come on,” depending on tone and context.
① what tanomu means
② its core image and historical development
③ how to pronounce and write it
④ common grammar patterns with 頼む
⑤ the different meanings of 頼むよ
⑥ how to use 頼むから and あとは頼んだ
⑦ how casual or direct 頼む sounds
⑧ the differences between tanomu, onegaishimasu, kudasai, choudai, makaseru, and tayoru
⑨ anime usage, common mistakes, and natural examples
What Does Tanomu Mean in Japanese?
Hiragana: たのむ
Romaji: tanomu
Word type: godan verb
Basic meanings: ask, request, entrust, rely on, order, call for
頼む is broader than the English verb “ask.” It often implies that the speaker expects the listener, service provider, or chosen person to take care of something.
1. To Ask Someone for a Favor
友達に引っ越しを手伝ってくれるよう頼んだ。
Tomodachi ni hikkoshi o tetsudatte kureru yō tanonda.
I asked my friend to help me move.
2. To Entrust a Task or Responsibility
留守の間、犬の世話を妹に頼んだ。
Rusu no aida, inu no sewa o imōto ni tanonda.
I asked my younger sister to take care of my dog while I was away.
3. To Order Food or a Product
昼ご飯にカレーを頼んだ。
Hirugohan ni karē o tanonda.
I ordered curry for lunch.
4. To Call for a Person or Service
ホテルでタクシーを頼んだ。
Hoteru de takushī o tanonda.
I asked the hotel to call a taxi.
5. To Rely On or Count On Someone
君だけが頼りだ。頼むよ。
Kimi dake ga tayori da. Tanomu yo.
You’re the only one I can rely on. I’m counting on you.
The person or business receiving the request is understood from the situation.
The Core Image and Origin of Tanomu
The older core of 頼む was closely connected to trusting, relying on, and placing oneself in someone’s care.
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Place yourself, a task, or a hope in that person’s hands
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Ask that person to do something
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Request or order a product or service
Historical dictionary evidence shows that older Japanese often used 人を頼む in the sense of trusting a person and entrusting oneself to them. The modern “make a request” meaning became more general over time.
“I choose you, depend on you, and leave this need or task with you.”
That is why あとは頼む naturally means “I’ll leave the rest to you.”
Tanomu Pronunciation
Hiragana: たのむ
Romaji: tanomu
Mora: た・の・む (3 morae)
Slow rhythm: ta – no – mu
Use three relatively even beats. Do not turn the final む (mu) into only an English “m” sound.
Keep the rhythm more even:
ta-no-mu
Pronunciation of Tanomu Yo
た・の・む・よ
ta – no – mu – yo
The particle よ adds the speaker’s assertion, emphasis, reminder, appeal, or emotional stance. Its exact feeling comes mainly from context and intonation.
頼むよ is still casual.
How Do You Write Tanomu?
Hiragana: たのむ
Katakana: タノム
Romaji: tanomu
The standard spelling is 頼む. Hiragana is also correct and may appear in beginner materials, children’s writing, or stylistic dialogue.
Katakana タノム may be used for emphasis, a mechanical voice, dramatic manga text, or unusual characterization.
頼る — rely on
信頼 — trust
依頼 — request or commission
頼り — support; someone or something relied on
Tanomu Conjugation
Polite: 頼みます — ask / will ask
Past: 頼んだ — asked / ordered
Polite past: 頼みました — asked / ordered
Negative: 頼まない — do not ask
Te-form: 頼んで — ask and… / by asking
Passive: 頼まれる — be asked
Potential: 頼める — can ask / can rely on
Volitional: 頼もう — let’s ask / I will ask
Verbs ending in む, ぶ, or ぬ change to んで in the て-form and んだ in the past form:
頼む → 頼んで → 頼んだ
Common Grammar Patterns with Tanomu
1. Person に Noun を頼む
Use に for the person receiving the request and を for the task, item, or matter requested.
Ask [person] for [task/item].
Entrust [task/item] to [person].
同僚に資料の確認を頼んだ。
Dōryō ni shiryō no kakunin o tanonda.
I asked my coworker to check the document.
弟に買い物を頼んだ。
Otōto ni kaimono o tanonda.
I asked my younger brother to do some shopping.
2. Person に Vるよう頼む
This pattern reports the action you asked someone to perform.
Ask [person] to do [action].
彼に時間どおり来るよう頼んだ。
Kare ni jikan dōri kuru yō tanonda.
I asked him to come on time.
子どもたちに静かにするよう頼みました。
Kodomotachi ni shizuka ni suru yō tanomimashita.
I asked the children to be quiet.
3. Person に Vてほしいと頼む
This explicitly reports the speaker’s desired action.
友達に一緒に来てほしいと頼んだ。
Tomodachi ni issho ni kite hoshii to tanonda.
I asked my friend to come with me.
4. Noun を頼む: Order or Request an Item
レストランでパスタを頼んだ。
Resutoran de pasuta o tanonda.
I ordered pasta at the restaurant.
オンラインで新しい本を頼んだ。
Onrain de atarashii hon o tanonda.
I ordered a new book online.
5. Service or Professional を頼む
タクシーを頼んでください。
Takushī o tanonde kudasai.
Please call a taxi.
医者を頼んだほうがいい。
Isha o tanonda hō ga ii.
We should call a doctor.
English translations change according to the type of person, product, or service requested.
What Does Tanomu Yo Mean?
頼むよ is casual and highly dependent on tone. It does not have one fixed English translation.
I ask you / I entrust this to you
よ
Adds assertion, emphasis, reminder, appeal, warning, expectation, or emotional pressure
1. Sincere Request: “Please” or “I’m Begging You”
頼むよ、誰にも言わないでくれ。
Tanomu yo, dare ni mo iwanaide kure.
Please, don’t tell anyone.
Use it with someone close or in an urgent situation—not as your default request to a stranger.
2. Entrusting a Task: “I’m Counting on You”
明日の試合、頼むよ。
Ashita no shiai, tanomu yo.
I’m counting on you in tomorrow’s game.
この仕事は君に任せる。頼むよ。
Kono shigoto wa kimi ni makaseru. Tanomu yo.
I’m leaving this job to you. I’m counting on you.
3. Reminder or Warning: “Make Sure You Do It”
明日は遅刻しないでくれよ。頼むよ。
Ashita wa chikoku shinaide kure yo. Tanomu yo.
Don’t be late tomorrow, okay? I’m serious.
Here, the speaker is not making a new request from zero. They are emphasizing responsibility or reminding the listener.
4. Exasperation: “Come On” or “Give Me a Break”
また忘れたの？ 頼むよ、本当に。
Mata wasureta no? Tanomu yo, hontō ni.
You forgot again? Come on, seriously.
“Please be more reliable.”
“Please do what you are supposed to do.”
English often translates the emotional reaction rather than the omitted request.
5. Encouragement with Expectation
最後の一球、頼むよ！
Saigo no ikkyū, tanomu yo!
Come on—make this last pitch count! / We’re counting on you!
This is common in sports, games, teamwork, and dramatic scenes. The speaker places their hope in the listener.
How Intonation Changes Tanomu Yo
頼むよ…。
Please… / I’m really asking you.
Bright, encouraging voice
頼むよ！
I’m counting on you!
Firm, serious voice
頼むよ。
Make sure you do it.
Tired or irritated voice
頼むよ、ほんとに。
Come on, seriously.
Desperate shout
頼むよ！ 間に合ってくれ！
Please! Make it in time!
① what task or problem was mentioned
② the speaker’s facial expression and voice
③ whether the listener has already agreed or failed before
The words alone are not enough.
Tanomu Kara: “Please, I’m Begging You”
頼むから literally begins with “because I’m asking,” but it functions as an emotional appeal before the main request.
Please…
I’m begging you…
For goodness’ sake…
頼むから静かにしてくれ。
Tanomu kara shizuka ni shite kure.
Please, just be quiet.
頼むから、もう無茶はしないで。
Tanomu kara, mō mucha wa shinaide.
Please, don’t do anything reckless again.
頼むから信じてくれ。
Tanomu kara shinjite kure.
Please believe me.
“I’m asking you, so please…”
Ato wa Tanonda: “I’ll Leave the Rest to You”
I’ll leave the rest to you.
The rest is in your hands.
The past form 頼んだ can sound as though the entrusting decision is already complete: “I have now placed this in your hands.”
私は先に行く。あとは頼んだ。
Watashi wa saki ni iku. Ato wa tanonda.
I’m going ahead. I’ll leave the rest to you.
子どもたちのこと、頼んだよ。
Kodomotachi no koto, tanonda yo.
I’m counting on you to look after the children.
English often expresses the result as “It’s in your hands now.”
Tanomi ga Aru: “I Have a Favor to Ask”
I have a favor to ask.
ちょっと頼みがあるんだけど。
I have a small favor to ask.
一つ頼みを聞いてくれない？
Could you do me one favor?
The unfinished ending gently invites the listener to respond: “What is it?”
How Casual Is Tanomu?
頼む is the plain dictionary form, so a direct 頼む or 頼むよ is casual.
・friends
・family
・teammates
・coworkers of similar status
・someone you supervise
・urgent or emotional situations
・fictional dialogue
Use caution with:
・customers
・teachers
・supervisors
・strangers
・formal business contacts
Use a polite request such as お願いします, お願いできますか, or ～ていただけますか.
Is Tanomu Masculine?
頼む is not restricted to men. However, a sentence ending abruptly with 頼む, 頼むよ, or 頼んだぞ may sound firm, direct, or masculine depending on voice and context.
I’m counting on you, okay?
Often softer and friendlier.
頼むよ。
Please / I’m counting on you.
Can be sincere, firm, encouraging, or irritated.
頼むぞ。
I’m counting on you!
Forceful, rougher, or stereotypically masculine.
お願いね。
Please, okay?
Softer casual alternative.
The impression comes from intonation, sentence ending, character, and relationship—not only the speaker’s gender.
Tanomu vs Onegaishimasu
Casual and direct
Ask, entrust, count on, order, or call for
Often shows personal reliance or pressure
お願いします (onegaishimasu)
Polite standard
Present a request, order, service, choice, or entrusted matter
Suitable for strangers and service situations
I’m leaving this job to you.
⇒ Casual and direct.
この仕事をお願いします。
Please take care of this job.
⇒ Polite standard.
ラーメンを頼む。
I’ll order ramen. / I order ramen.
⇒ Describes the act of ordering.
ラーメンをお願いします。
I’d like ramen, please.
⇒ Spoken directly as a polite order.
Say ラーメンをお願いします or ラーメンをください to staff.
Learn more: Onegaishimasu Meaning and Pronunciation
Tanomu vs Kudasai
Verb meaning ask, request, entrust, rely on, or order
Can describe the act of making a request
ください
Polite request form
Follows a noun for an item or a て-form for an action
I asked him for help.
⇒ Reports the act of asking.
手伝ってください。
Please help me.
⇒ Directly says the requested action to the listener.
タクシーを頼んだ。
I called/ordered a taxi.
タクシーを呼んでください。
Please call a taxi.
タクシーを頼んでください。
Please arrange/call a taxi.
Here, 頼んで is the requested action, and ください makes it polite.
Learn more: Kudasai Meaning and Kudasai vs Onegaishimasu
Tanomu vs Choudai
Ask, request, entrust, count on, or order
Focuses on making or placing a request
ちょうだい
Give me / do this for me
Focuses on casually receiving an item or action
妹に水を持ってくるよう頼んだ。
Imōto ni mizu o motte kuru yō tanonda.
I asked my younger sister to bring water.
水ちょうだい。
Mizu chōdai.
Give me some water.
頼む can report a request and identify the person asked. ちょうだい directly expresses the casual request to receive something.
Learn more: Choudai Meaning and Casual Usage
Tanomu vs Makaseru
Ask or entrust someone to perform a task
任せる (makaseru)
Leave the decision, control, responsibility, or method to someone
彼に資料作りを頼んだ。
Kare ni shiryōzukuri o tanonda.
I asked him to prepare the materials.
資料の作り方は彼に任せた。
Shiryō no tsukurikata wa kare ni makaseta.
I left the method of preparing the materials to him.
任せた。 — I leave the responsibility and decisions to you.
頼むよ。 — I’m counting on you to do it well.
Tanomu vs Tayoru
Ask someone to do something; entrust a specific task or need
頼る (tayoru)
Depend on, turn to, or seek support from someone or something
友達に車を出してくれるよう頼んだ。
Tomodachi ni kuruma o dashite kureru yō tanonda.
I asked my friend to drive.
困ったときは友達を頼る。
Komatta toki wa tomodachi o tayoru.
I rely on my friends when I am in trouble.
頼む usually involves a particular request. 頼る describes dependence or seeking support more generally.
Tanomu in Restaurants, Shopping, and Services
Talking About What You Ordered
何を頼んだの？
Nani o tanonda no?
What did you order?
私は同じものを頼む。
Watashi wa onaji mono o tanomu.
I’ll order the same thing.
Calling a Service
フロントにタクシーを頼んだ。
Furonto ni takushī o tanonda.
I asked the front desk to call a taxi.
修理業者を頼む必要がある。
Shūri gyōsha o tanomu hitsuyō ga aru.
We need to call/hire a repair company.
Requesting Professional Work
デザイナーにロゴ制作を頼んだ。
Dezainā ni rogo seisaku o tanonda.
I commissioned a designer to create a logo.
Whether money is involved depends on context.
Tanomu in Anime and Manga
Anime and manga use 頼む frequently because it can express trust, desperation, teamwork, responsibility, and emotional pressure in a very short line.
Please! Help me!
⇒ Desperate appeal.
ここは俺に任せろ。先に行け！
わかった。頼む！
“Leave this to me. Go ahead!”
“Got it. I’m counting on you!”
あとは頼んだぞ。
I’ll leave the rest to you.
⇒ Strong entrusting line.
頼む、間に合ってくれ！
Please, let it make it in time!
⇒ A wish directed at a situation or object.
本当に頼むよ、先輩。
I’m really counting on you, senpai.
⇒ Sincere or slightly pressured depending on tone.
また失敗？ 頼むよ、もう。
You failed again? Come on.
⇒ Exasperation.
A person may say 頼む、動いてくれ！ to a machine or 頼む、晴れてくれ！ about the weather.
It means something like, “Please—do what I need you to do.”
Common Beginner Mistakes
Mistake 1: Using Tanomu as a Polite “Please” with Strangers
Blunt or unnatural as a direct customer order.
○ コーヒーをお願いします。
I’d like coffee, please.
○ コーヒーをください。
Coffee, please.
Mistake 2: Assuming Tanomu Yo Has Only One Translation
It can mean “please,” “I’m counting on you,” “make sure,” “come on,” or “give me a break.” Read the context and emotion.
Mistake 3: Confusing Tanomu with Tayoru
Ask a friend to do a job.
友達を頼る。
Rely on a friend.
Mistake 4: Using the Wrong Past and Te-forms
○ 頼んだ
× 頼みて
○ 頼んで
Mistake 5: Believing Yo Makes It Polite
よ adds emphasis, not politeness. 頼むよ remains casual.
Mistake 6: Translating Every Noun を頼む as “Ask the Noun”
The natural English verb changes according to the noun.
order food
タクシーを頼む
call/order a taxi
医者を頼む
call for a doctor
仕事を頼む
ask someone to do a job / commission work
留守番を頼む
ask someone to watch the house
Natural Example Sentences with Tanomu
友達に引っ越しの手伝いを頼んだ。
Tomodachi ni hikkoshi no tetsudai o tanonda.
I asked my friend to help me move.
母に子どもの世話を頼みました。
Haha ni kodomo no sewa o tanomimashita.
I asked my mother to take care of the children.
この書類の確認を頼める？
Kono shorui no kakunin o tanomeru?
Can I ask you to check this document?
ちょっと頼みたいことがある。
Chotto tanomitai koto ga aru.
There is something I want to ask you.
頼むから、最後まで話を聞いて。
Tanomu kara, saigo made hanashi o kiite.
Please, listen to me until the end.
明日のプレゼン、頼むよ。
Ashita no purezen, tanomu yo.
I’m counting on you for tomorrow’s presentation.
また鍵を忘れたの？ 頼むよ。
Mata kagi o wasureta no? Tanomu yo.
You forgot your key again? Come on.
私は先に帰るから、あとは頼んだ。
Watashi wa saki ni kaeru kara, ato wa tanonda.
I’m going home first, so I’ll leave the rest to you.
レストランで魚料理を頼んだ。
Resutoran de sakana ryōri o tanonda.
I ordered a fish dish at the restaurant.
フロントにモーニングコールを頼んだ。
Furonto ni mōningu kōru o tanonda.
I asked the front desk for a wake-up call.
この仕事は専門家に頼んだほうがいい。
Kono shigoto wa senmonka ni tanonda hō ga ii.
It would be better to ask a specialist to do this job.
誰に頼めばいいかわからない。
Dare ni tanomeba ii ka wakaranai.
I don’t know whom I should ask.
上司に休みをもらえるよう頼んでみる。
Jōshi ni yasumi o moraeru yō tanonde miru.
I’ll try asking my boss if I can take time off.
彼に頼まれて、この荷物を運びました。
Kare ni tanomarete, kono nimotsu o hakobimashita.
He asked me to carry this luggage.
君なら安心して頼める。
Kimi nara anshin shite tanomeru.
You are someone I can ask with confidence.
頼む、もう一度だけチャンスをくれ。
Tanomu, mō ichido dake chansu o kure.
Please, give me just one more chance.
FAQ About Tanomu
What does tanomu mean in English?
頼む can mean “ask,” “request,” “entrust,” “count on,” “order,” or “call for.” Its core image is relying on someone and placing a need or task in their hands.
What does tanomu yo mean?
Depending on context and tone, 頼むよ can mean “Please,” “I’m counting on you,” “Make sure you do it,” “Come on,” or “Give me a break.”
Is tanomu casual?
Yes. A direct 頼む or 頼むよ uses the plain form and is casual. Use お願いします or another polite request with strangers and people of higher status.
Is tanomu rude?
It is not automatically rude, but it can sound direct, forceful, or overly familiar depending on the relationship and tone.
What is the difference between tanomu and onegaishimasu?
頼む is a casual verb meaning to ask, entrust, rely on, or order. お願いします is a standard polite expression used to present a request, order, service, or entrusted matter.
What is the difference between tanomu and kudasai?
頼む describes making or placing a request. ください directly asks for a stated item or follows a verb’s て-form to request an action.
What is the difference between tanomu and tayoru?
頼む usually involves asking for a particular task or service. 頼る means to depend on or seek support from someone or something.
What is the difference between tanomu and makaseru?
頼む means asking or entrusting someone to do a task. 任せる emphasizes leaving control, judgment, method, or responsibility to that person.
What does tanomu kara mean?
頼むから is an emotional lead-in meaning “Please,” “I’m begging you,” or “For goodness’ sake,” followed by the main request.
What does ato wa tanonda mean?
あとは頼んだ means “I’ll leave the rest to you” or “The rest is in your hands.”
Can tanomu mean “order”?
Yes. 料理を頼む means to order food, and 商品を頼む can mean to order a product.
How do you pronounce tanomu?
Pronounce it in three relatively even morae: た・の・む, or ta-no-mu.
Can women say tanomu yo?
Yes. It is not gender-exclusive, although a short direct sentence may sound firm or masculine depending on intonation and character.
What is the past form of tanomu?
The past form is 頼んだ (tanonda), and the て-form is 頼んで (tanonde).
Summary: Tanomu Meaning and Tanomu Yo
頼む means ask, request, entrust, count on, order, or call for.
● Core image
Relying on someone and placing a wish, task, or need in that person’s hands.
● Pronunciation
た・の・む
ta-no-mu
● Common request pattern
[person] に [task] を頼む
● Tanomu yo
Can mean “Please,” “I’m counting on you,” “Make sure,” or “Come on,” depending on tone.
● Tanomu kara
An emotional “Please…” or “I’m begging you…”
● Ato wa tanonda
“I’ll leave the rest to you.”
● Politeness
頼む and 頼むよ are casual and direct.
お願いします is the safer polite standard.
That one image connects asking a favor, entrusting a task, ordering food, calling a service, and saying 頼むよ when you are counting on someone.
Related Article
If you want to compare all the common ways to make a request in Japanese in one place, see How to Ask for Something in Japanese: Polite and Casual Request Phrases.
References
- Kotobank: 頼む — definitions including requesting, relying on, entrusting, ordering, and calling for a service, plus historical usage notes.
- Progressive Japanese–English Dictionary via Kotobank: 頼む — English equivalents and examples including 頼むよ and あとは頼む.
- Goo Thesaurus: 頼む and 依頼 — comparison of everyday 頼む with the more formal 依頼する.
- Kotobank: 頼る — definitions used to distinguish 頼る from 頼む.