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How do you say “love” or “I love you” in Japanese?
There is no single Japanese expression that matches every use of the English word love. Japanese changes the word according to whether you are expressing a preference, romantic attraction, longing, deep affection, a serious declaration, or a request to begin a relationship.
The most important Japanese words and expressions for love are:
① 好き (suki) — like; be fond of; romantically like/love
② 大好き (daisuki) — really like; love very much
③ 恋 (koi) — romantic longing; being in love
④ 愛 (ai) — love, affection, care, or devotion
⑤ 愛してる (aishiteru) — I love you; a serious declaration of love
⑥ 恋してる (koishiteru) — I am in love
⑦ 付き合ってください (tsukiatte kudasai) — Please go out with me / Please be my partner
The quickest practical answer is:
好きです。
Suki desu.
“I like you” / “I have romantic feelings for you.”
For a deeper and more serious declaration:
愛してる。
Aishiteru.
“I love you.”
How Do You Say “Love” in Japanese?
The two most important nouns are 恋 (koi) and 愛 (ai).
Romantic attraction, longing, yearning, or the experience of being in love.愛 (ai)
Love, affection, care, cherishing, or devotion in romantic and non-romantic relationships.
However, when Japanese speakers directly express feelings to another person, they often use 好き or 大好き rather than the standalone nouns 恋 or 愛.
Quick Comparison: Japanese Words for Love
| Japanese | Romaji | Closest English | Typical Use | Emotional Weight |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| 好き | suki | like / love | Preferences and romantic feelings | Light–serious, depending on context |
| 大好き | daisuki | really like / love | Warm affection and enthusiasm | Warm and strong |
| 恋 | koi | romantic love / longing | Talking about the experience of romance | Emotionally romantic |
| 愛 | ai | love / care / devotion | Romantic, family, humanitarian, abstract love | Broad and often deep |
| 愛してる | aishiteru | I love you | Serious or intimate declaration | Often very strong |
| 恋してる | koishiteru | I am in love | Describing romantic attraction or longing | Romantic |
| 付き合ってください | tsukiatte kudasai | Please go out with me | Asking to begin a relationship | Direct request |
1. 好き (Suki): The Most Useful Everyday Word
好き means that your heart is drawn to someone or something. It can mean like, be fond of, or—in a romantic context—effectively love.
Hiragana: すき
Romaji: suki
Grammar: noun / な-adjective-like word
Core image: your heart is drawn to someone or something
猫が好きです。
Neko ga suki desu.
I like cats.
あなたが好きです。
Anata ga suki desu.
I like you / I have romantic feelings for you.
ずっと前から好きでした。
Zutto mae kara suki deshita.
I have liked you for a long time.
In a romantic confession, 好きです is not necessarily weak. It is one of the most natural ways to tell someone that you have romantic feelings.
2. 大好き (Daisuki): “I Really Like/Love You”
大好き adds 大 (dai), meaning “big” or “great,” to 好き. It expresses strong fondness warmly and enthusiastically.
⇒ really like
⇒ love very much
⇒ adore
大好きだよ。
Daisuki da yo.
I love you / I really like you.
お母さん、大好き！
Okāsan, daisuki!
Mom, I love you!
この曲が大好きです。
Kono kyoku ga daisuki desu.
I love this song.
大好き can be romantic, but it is also natural for family, friends, pets, foods, hobbies, characters, and places.
3. 恋 (Koi): Romantic Longing
恋 describes romantic longing, yearning, or the experience of being in love. Its historical meanings also include longing for people, places, seasons, and other things one misses or cherishes.
Hiragana: こい
Romaji: koi
Grammar: noun
Core image: the heart reaches toward someone
to fall/be in love恋に落ちる
to fall in love恋人
romantic partner / lover
初恋
first love
片思い
unrequited or one-sided love
彼に恋をしている。
Kare ni koi o shite iru.
I am in love with him.
二人は恋に落ちた。
Futari wa koi ni ochita.
The two fell in love.
恋 names the romantic feeling or experience. It is not usually used by itself as a direct confession to another person.
4. 愛 (Ai): Love, Care, and Devotion
愛 is the broad noun for love, affection, care, cherishing, and devotion. It can be romantic, but it also appears in family love, self-love, love for humanity, and love for animals, nature, art, or one’s country.
Hiragana: あい
Romaji: ai
Grammar: noun
Core image: holding someone or something as precious
love and affection家族愛
familial love自己愛
self-love
人類愛
love for humanity
愛する
to love and cherish
親の愛は深い。
Oya no ai wa fukai.
A parent’s love is deep.
家族を心から愛している。
Kazoku o kokoro kara aishite iru.
I truly love my family.
自然を愛する人。
Shizen o ai suru hito.
A person who loves nature.
Koi vs Ai vs Suki: What Is the Difference?
The experience of romantic attraction and longing.愛 (ai)
Love as cherishing, care, affection, or devotion.好き (suki)
The everyday expression that someone or something attracts and pleases you.
For a detailed comparison, see Koi vs Ai vs Suki: What Do 恋, 愛, and 好き Mean?
5. 愛してる (Aishiteru): A Serious “I Love You”
愛してる is the casual spoken contraction of 愛している. It commonly means “I love you” when the subject and object are understood.
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する — to do, creating 愛する “to love”
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ている — continuing state
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愛してる — I love you / I continue to love and cherish you
愛してる。
Aishiteru.
I love you.
これからもずっと愛してる。
Kore kara mo zutto aishiteru.
I will always love you.
君を心から愛してる。
Kimi o kokoro kara aishiteru.
I love you with all my heart.
The phrase is real and natural in the right context, but it may sound more serious, intimate, committed, dramatic, or emotionally vulnerable than an everyday English “love you.”
For the full grammar, pronunciation, and usage guide, see What Does 愛してる (Aishiteru) Mean?
Suki vs Daisuki vs Aishiteru
| Expression | Meaning | Typical Romantic Use | Other Uses |
|---|---|---|---|
| 好き | like / love | Natural confession and everyday affection | Preferences, food, hobbies, friends |
| 大好き | really like / love | Warm, enthusiastic affection | Family, friends, pets, food, hobbies |
| 愛してる | love deeply | Serious, intimate, committed declaration | Family, nature, art, hometown, other cherished things when the object is stated |
I like/love you.
⇒ Natural for revealing romantic feelings.大好きだよ。
I really love you.
⇒ Warm and affectionate.愛してる。
I love you.
⇒ Serious, intimate, or emotionally weighty.
How to Say “I Love You” in Japanese
好きです: A Natural Confession
あなたのことが好きです。
Anata no koto ga suki desu.
I like you / I have romantic feelings for you.
This is one of the safest and most natural choices when confessing romantic interest.
大好き: Warm and Strong Affection
大好きだよ。
Daisuki da yo.
I love you.
This sounds warm and enthusiastic. It may be romantic or non-romantic depending on context.
愛してる: Serious Love
何があっても愛してる。
Nani ga atte mo aishiteru.
No matter what happens, I love you.
This suits an emotionally important or established relationship more readily than a light first confession.
恋してる: “I Am in Love”
君に恋してる。
Kimi ni koishiteru.
I am in love with you.
This focuses on the speaker’s romantic attraction and state of being in love.
How to Confess Your Love in Japanese
A common direct confession combines a statement of feeling with a request to begin a relationship.
Suki desu. Tsukiatte kudasai.
I like you. Please go out with me.
The two sentences perform different jobs:
Reveals the speaker’s romantic feelings.付き合ってください。
Asks the listener to begin a romantic relationship.
ずっと前から好きでした。よかったら、僕と付き合ってください。
Zutto mae kara suki deshita. Yokattara, boku to tsukiatte kudasai.
I have liked you for a long time. If you feel the same, please go out with me.
あなたのことをもっと知りたいです。付き合ってくれませんか。
Anata no koto o motto shiritai desu. Tsukiatte kuremasen ka.
I want to get to know you better. Would you go out with me?
For a detailed guide to the romantic and non-romantic meanings of the phrase, see How to Use 付き合ってください (Tsukiatte Kudasai).
付き合ってください vs デートしませんか
Would you like to go on a date?
⇒ Invitation to a date or outing.付き合ってください。
Please go out with me.
⇒ Request to become a couple or begin a relationship.
English “go out with me” can refer to one date or a continuing relationship. Japanese distinguishes these intentions more clearly.
How to Ask “Do You Love Me?” in Japanese
Watashi no koto, suki?
Do you like me? / Do you have feelings for me?私のこと、大好き？
Watashi no koto, daisuki?
Do you really love me?私のこと、愛してる？
Watashi no koto, aishiteru?
Do you love me?
The last question can feel emotionally serious or demanding depending on the relationship and tone.
How to Say “I Love You Too” in Japanese
Watashi mo suki desu.
I like/love you too.私も大好きだよ。
Watashi mo daisuki da yo.
I love you too.私も愛してる。
Watashi mo aishiteru.
I love you too.
私も同じ気持ちです。
Watashi mo onaji kimochi desu.
I feel the same way.
How to Accept or Reject a Japanese Confession
Accepting
私も好きです。よろしくお願いします。
Watashi mo suki desu. Yoroshiku onegai shimasu.
I like you too. I would be happy to be with you.
うれしい。私も大好き。
Ureshii. Watashi mo daisuki.
I’m happy. I love you too.
Asking for Time
ありがとう。少し考える時間をもらってもいい？
Arigatō. Sukoshi kangaeru jikan o moratte mo ii?
Thank you. Can I have some time to think?
Rejecting Respectfully
ごめんなさい。気持ちには応えられません。
Gomen nasai. Kimochi ni wa kotaeraremasen.
I’m sorry. I cannot return your feelings.
A confession is a request rather than an obligation. A natural and respectful interaction includes accepting the other person’s answer without repeated pressure.
Romantic Japanese Phrases Related to Love
| Japanese | Romaji | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
| 好きな人 | suki na hito | someone one likes / one’s crush |
| 恋に落ちる | koi ni ochiru | to fall in love |
| 一目惚れ | hitomebore | love at first sight |
| 片思い | kataomoi | unrequited love |
| 両思い | ryōomoi | mutual love |
| 告白する | kokuhaku suru | to confess one’s romantic feelings |
| 付き合う | tsukiau | to date / be in a relationship |
| 恋人 | koibito | romantic partner |
| 愛情 | aijō | love and affection |
| 失恋 | shitsuren | lost love / heartbreak |
Japanese Love Expressions in Anime, Manga, and Songs
Japanese fiction uses all these expressions, but their narrative roles differ.
Often used in realistic confession scenes.付き合ってください。
Marks the clear request to become a couple.大好き。
Shows warm, enthusiastic, or emotional affection.
恋してる。
Highlights romantic attraction or longing.
愛してる。
Often appears at a dramatic, intimate, tragic, or climactic moment.
恋 / 愛
Frequently appear in titles, narration, themes, and song lyrics.
Love for Family, Friends, Pets, Food, and Hobbies
English uses love very broadly. Japanese usually changes the expression according to the target.
恋人を愛している。
恋人が大好きだ。I love my family.
家族を愛している。
家族が大好きだ。I love my dog.
犬が大好きだ。
愛犬をとても大切にしている。
I love ramen.
ラーメンが大好きだ。
I love music.
音楽が大好きだ。
音楽を愛している。— more serious, literary, or identity-based
Common Mistakes with Japanese Words for Love
Mistake 1: Translating Every “Love” as 愛
○ コーヒーが大好きです。
△ コーヒーを愛しています。
The second is possible but often sounds deliberately intense, literary, humorous, or promotional.
Mistake 2: Assuming 好き Is Too Weak for Romance
好きです is a standard and meaningful romantic confession. Its English translation depends on context.
Mistake 3: Using 恋 as a Direct Verb
× 私は彼を恋。
○ 彼に恋をしている。
I am in love with him.
○ 彼が好きだ。
I like/love him.
Mistake 4: Using 愛してる Too Early
It is not wrong, but it may sound more serious than intended in a new or uncertain relationship.
Mistake 5: Confusing a Date Invitation with a Relationship Request
Would you like to go on a date?付き合ってください。
Please become my romantic partner.
Mistake 6: Assuming Every Japanese Couple Uses the Same Phrase
People differ. Some couples say 愛してる, while others prefer 好き, 大好き, nicknames, actions, or indirect expressions.
FAQ: Japanese Words for Love
What is the Japanese word for love?
The main nouns are 愛 (ai) for broad love, affection, and care, and 恋 (koi) for romantic longing or being in love.
How do you say “I love you” in Japanese?
愛してる (aishiteru) directly means “I love you.” In many everyday romantic situations, 好き or 大好き may sound more natural.
Does suki mean like or love?
It can mean either. With food or hobbies, it usually means “like.” In a romantic confession, it can express serious romantic feelings.
What is the difference between koi and ai?
恋 mainly describes romantic attraction and longing. 愛 is broader and includes cherishing, care, affection, and devotion in romantic and non-romantic relationships.
What is the difference between suki and aishiteru?
好き expresses attraction or fondness and is common in confessions and everyday affection. 愛してる usually sounds more serious, intimate, committed, or emotionally weighty.
Is daisuki stronger than suki?
大好き literally intensifies 好き and means “really like” or “love very much.” It sounds warm and enthusiastic.
Do Japanese people say aishiteru?
Yes, but usage varies. Some reserve it for important moments, while others use 好き, 大好き, actions, or indirect language more often.
How do you confess love in Japanese?
A common confession is 好きです。付き合ってください, meaning “I like you. Please go out with me.”
What does tsukiatte kudasai mean?
In a romantic confession, 付き合ってください means “Please go out with me” or “Please start a relationship with me.”
How do you say “fall in love” in Japanese?
Say 恋に落ちる (koi ni ochiru). Another useful expression is 人を好きになる, meaning to come to like or fall for someone.
How do you say “romantic love” in Japanese?
恋愛 (ren’ai) means romantic love, romance, or romantic relationships as a general concept.
How do you say “I love you too” in Japanese?
Possible replies include 私も愛してる, 私も大好き, and 私も好きです.
Can I say aishiteru to family?
Yes, because 愛する can describe family love. However, families differ in how directly they express affection, and 大好き may sound warmer and more conversational in many situations.
Is koi only used for heterosexual love?
No. 恋 can describe romantic feelings regardless of the genders of the people involved.
Summary: How to Express Love in Japanese
Like, be fond of, or romantically love.
Best everyday choice for expressing attraction.● 大好き
Really like or love very much.
Warm, enthusiastic, and flexible.● 恋
Romantic longing or the experience of being in love.
● 愛
Broad love, care, affection, cherishing, and devotion.
● 愛してる
“I love you.” Often serious, intimate, or emotionally weighty.
● 恋してる
“I am in love.” Focuses on romantic attraction or longing.
● 付き合ってください
“Please go out with me.” Clearly asks to begin a romantic relationship.
● Natural confession
好きです。付き合ってください。
I like you. Please go out with me.
Remember the core images:
好き ⇒ the heart is drawn to someone
恋 ⇒ the heart longs for someone
愛 ⇒ someone or something is cherished
愛してる ⇒ that love continues
付き合ってください ⇒ please begin a relationship with me
Japanese does not have only one word for love—the expression changes with the shape of the feeling.
References
- Kotobank: 好き — meanings including being attracted to or pleased by someone or something.
- Kotobank: 恋 — romantic longing and the historical sense of yearning for people, places, and other things.
- Kotobank: 愛 — broad meanings of love, affection, romantic attachment, and care.
- Kanjipedia: 愛 — meanings including loving, cherishing, liking, valuing, and protecting.
- Kotobank: 愛してる — identifies 愛してる as the contraction of 愛している.
- Kotobank: 恋愛 — romantic love and mutual romantic feeling.
- Kotobank: 付き合う — social association, romantic dating, and accompanying someone.
- The Japan Foundation: Japanese teaching materials — includes つきあってもらえませんか as a confession expression.